Behavioral Issues

There is a lot of talk these days, as there ever was, about radical change. We here about the need for it from sources as non-congruous as the Huffington Post and local mega church revival gatherings. The only problem is waiting around for something dramatic generally entails waiting a very long time.

Also, waiting around, however frustrating it may be, is a lot safer than the risks associated with doing what you truly want to do. Think of the member of the opposite sex, or perhaps the same sex who you wish you could have something more with. The wishing becomes its own fortress. Hope becomes its own solitary confinement. The thing with solitary confinement though is that if you can't get out, nothing else can get in, and thus at you. 

Important decisions are always underpinned by emotions more than logic and reason. 

That being said, rather than waiting for that radical change which is beyond prediction, the emotional blocks laid one on top of the other like walls in a fortress underlying that hope can be rearranged to form something, if not quite as dismally safe, much more open and thus much more capable of influencing the real world. 

This doesn't happen by waiting around. It happens by deciding to take control of your thoughts and actions daily, and moment by moment until they change. It comes by deciding to have a conversation with the homeless alcoholic on the street corner rather than ignoring him. It comes from deciding to make eye contact BEFORE leering at that hot girl's back side. See the person before you see an object. It comes from saying thank you when something has happened for which you should say so. It comes from deciding to forgive and saying you forgive until you actually mean it and it actually becomes true.

We talk about bad habits, and all too often forget that good habits can be learned just as well. 

Many small things become big things.